On a beautiful day in August a friend and I agreed that February is the worst month of the year. Dull days. Blizzards. Spring does not feel “just around the corner”.
As I stood looking out the window this morning. I realized that it is February 1st. It is a dull day with a blizzard forecast in the area tonight. And Spring ….well… you get the picture.
However, this year I made a promise to myself that I would not let February get me down. I will not be stressed by these blah February days!
It turns out that a client has requested that I present a session on de-stressing this month. Ironic? Yes. Coincidental? I don’t think so. Not if you have read “The Secret” . So as I research the latest information on what we can do about stress I will share some of this information in my blog this month, along with some of the things others do when stressed.
Sir Richard Branson, Chairman of Virgin Group, says he takes time out to be with family when stressed. Read about it in “Take Time Off To Succeed”. In fact he argues that taking time out to be with friends and family helped lead to his success.
While we might not all have the funds to de-stress the way Sir Richard does we might take some time out to make a date with a family member or a friend whom we haven’t seen lately.
Hmm…I think I will call that friend who dislikes February and take her for a coffee.
I’ll bet that got your attention! It did mine.
Robin Sharma, author of “The Leader Who Had No Title“, lists his 60 tips in his blog at http://www.robinsharma.com/blog/12/60-tips-for-a-stunningly-great-life/ if you want to peruse them for yourself.
As I read them through I found myself checking them off or mentally drawing a line through them, depending on whether I agreed or not with the author.. The list served a wonderful positive purpose: it got me thinking about just how great my life actually is right now. So many times I look into the future and think about what I could, or worse, should do, to create a better life.
Just prior to reading this list I had received an email from a client who asked me in her note whether I was having an awesome day. I thought about the question momentarily, and then replied “Yes, actually I am!” I even smiled as I responded on my blackberry. Her very use of the word “awesome” put me in such a positive place.
It continues to amaze me that the words we use to communicate can have such an affect on those around us. As for a “stunningly” great life, now I might just have to add a few things to my list to get me to that level.
Isn’t that the truth. We grow up with our perspective and often just assume that others view life the same way too. We often gravitate towards ppeople who see things the way we do too. But sometimes we find ourselves in the company of someone who just doesn’t see things in the same way and we wonder why they are so weird.
For example, one colleague may be very different on your team than the rest of your colleagues. As one workshop participant commented to me the other day, “we’re both speaking English but sometimes I just don’t understand her.” Once they learned the differences of how the four temperaments communicate, they began to understand where some of the gaps were in their relationship on the team.
Only then could they begin to bridge the gap between their two perspectives and perhaps even appreciate one another a little more. Once again, I quoted Patti Digh: “Experiencing the world of others doesn’t imply agreement or adoption of their way of being in the world, but it does require openness.”
Another participant commented that she thought a group of their colleagues were being sarcastic and she had never quite figured out why. She learned that day that this small group shared the same temperament and what she thought was sarcastic was really just their dry wit . They all laughed together. And so a bridge was built that day.
The foundation for whatever it is in life that you are trying to create — a great team, a fabulous family, or the life you want in your senior years –begins with who you are.
That’s right. Let me repeat this simple truth.
You start at the very beginning by answering the question: Who Are You?
Susan, one of many downsized clients, had no idea how to respond to the question of “who are you?” She looked me straight in the eye and said, “I have no idea who I am, what I want, or what makes me tick! I am over fifty years old. When I look back, I got my degree, started a great career, married the man of my dreams, had wonderful kids, and now, pouf, I haven’t a clue of who I really am because I’ve just been too busy being busy all of these years.”
“Furthermore, “ added Susan, “I have no idea where to begin to find out the answer to this simple question!’
My response: “That’s where I come in!”